Forty-two, one child, first divorce, & an amazing business owner. I was
a therapist and a damn good one at that. I am doing damn good for myself. My Ex-husband,
Shawn and I decided to split after 8 years of marriage. It was wonderful but we
grew apart and decided to be friends. Amazingly, we have an awesome friendship.
I can still remember when I married that man… my mind just took a trip down
memory lane! But no, there was no going back.
So, when I got home, I got myself ready for bed. Before I can go to sleep, I
started reviewing my notes for a few of my appointments that I have for
tomorrow. My patients are very interesting. My very first patient is Jake. He
is single and a bachelor. Jake is very tall dark, athletic, and handsome. By
the way, he has four children and three baby mothers which are all full of
drama. Kevin is married, has two children and owns two successful businesses.
His complaint is his wife never gives him time and attention. Then there is
Dre. Dre is the ideal man every woman wanted and lusted over: He made sure to
please his woman financially and sexually. Dre had a deep dark secret. He
wanted to let his wife in on the secret but was afraid of losing her. My last
patient of the day will be Denzel. He told me about everything that was going
on from his childhood until his adulthood. He was a successful night club
owner. Denzel has two live-in girlfriends and no children. Although he is
successful, he was still unhappy. There was childhood trauma he needed to face
and heal from. Lights out until tomorrow.
I got up and cooked breakfast. Dropped my daughter, Jazmine, off to school
and then went into the office. My awesome assistant, Keri, has my coffee
waiting on my desk. As I was waiting on Jake to arrive, an idea hit me. Why
don’t I start holding group sessions, so the patients can see different point
of views? They can also get advice from different people versus me telling them
what they should try. Keri calls to let me know Jake is ready.
Jake enters my office and as always, greets me with the utmost respect. His
assignment was supposed to be having a conversation with all his children’s
mothers. He was supposed to come up with a plan on how they can be cordial for
the sake of the children. Jake needed peace. Jake starts off by updating me on
what’s been going on since his last visit. Jake chuckled as he explained to me
on the outcome of getting his children’s mother to come together. After
numerous attempts and arguments, the women agreed to have a dinner at Jake’s
house but not to include the children. Jake goes on to tell me how that night
played out. The ladies all showed up at different times but on time. Everyone
was able to have the uncomfortable conversation that no one was previously
willing to have. All the women respected each other’s opinions and concluded.
All the ladies were assuming Jake was messing with the other. And as that was
previously a secret, he told the truth because he was indeed messing with each
of them. However, he was not in a relationship with any of them. None of the
ladies wanted to stop dealing with him. There was an agreement made for
everyone to get along and maybe Jake has an open relationship with all the
ladies. After dinner, Jake and the ladies each went their own separate ways,
but everyone stayed in contact. Jake said, he was happy with the ending and
wanted to be with all the ladies anyways, as all of them were the mothers to
his children. And he still cared about each of them. So, Teyana and Brandi
started talking more and even developed a sexual relationship amongst
themselves. Karly would never swing that way. Jake approved everything and it seemed
all too good to be true. All the children can now grow up with their siblings.
I sent Jake on his way with advice as to do what makes him happy but be careful
as this can get more complicated as before.
I had an hour before my next appointment. I ran out of the office to get a
few things. When I came back, I sat at my desk and pulled up my personal
calendars. As I gathered my thoughts, Keri called to let me know Kevin is in
the waiting area. Kevin’s assignment was to set aside three date nights to just
have time for him and his wife. He was such a wonderful man, but his wife was
just too blind to see it. Kevin starts telling me about the dates he set aside.
The first date was awesome: He got a hotel suite decorated and had gifts laid
out for her when they arrived. He said it was almost perfect. It was everything
he’s been trying to do. The second date was good, but not quite like the first.
He took her to the beach and had a picnic, but for some reason she seemed very
distant. Although, she seemed to be happy her energy made him notice otherwise.
Kevin said he stopped and questioned her as to why she’s this way with him. She
gives no response but proceeds with the picnic. Date three was absolutely
horrible. Kevin said to me that he thinks it is time for a divorce. Now, I am
not a divorce lawyer, so I do not give any advice on that. But what I will tell
my patients is that they need to think through things clearer and make a
decision thereafter. So, he goes on to tell me she finally tells him why she’s
been so distant. She’s been seeing her Ex-boyfriend for the past 6 months. My
advice for him was to see if his marriage was worth saving. If it is, go for
it. If not, let her be and just take care of your children. His appointment
took so long my next patient was already in the waiting area when we finished.
In comes Dre, the ideal man with the ideal package. At our first meeting,
Dre was embarrassed to tell me what his issue was. He just wanted to vent, but
I kept sensing that it was more to what he was telling me. Well at our last
meeting he told me his secret. Dre was bi-sexual. This was surely nothing I
have not heard before. He expressed how much he loved women, but he also liked
men. Before he got married, he privately been with men. He knows he could never
cheat on his wife, so he has been neglecting his feelings for it. He knows that
he could never be seen with a man in public, so he neglected his feelings. But
he was at a point he felt that urge and did not know how to deal with it. So, his
assignment was to generally question his wife about different views on that
subject. So, this is how it went down. Dre took his wife on a regular date
night at a high-class restaurant. During dinner he asks her questions on how
she felt about that. But of course, him questioning her made her feel a little
uneasy. Her responses were everything he wanted to hear. Surprisingly, she would
like to be in a relationship with 2 men. Dre explained the feeling of relief
that he felt that night. But him being bisexual before they met and him not
disclosing that her, hurt her. So, on the next date, they talked about a
possibility of them meeting men together. His assignment was accomplished, and
he can now end his session with me. I really did not want to let him go, as I
really wanted to hear details after they do meet someone. But follow up
sessions would have to be his call.
Now, it is time for my lunch break. I decided to go home, take a bath and use
my Lovebug. Lovebug was the name of my sexual toy. My most expensive vibrator.
As a therapist, you sit here and listen to other people’s issues, but no one
ever listens to you. they seem to think I got it all and that I am damn near
perfect. But little do they know; I have issues and I’m addicted to sex. After
my divorce, I did not want to date. I felt like I needed time to myself. Time
to refresh and find myself again. Most times, I sexually pleased myself. At
other times, I would call someone special over to satisfy me in ways I could
not. After I laid there for a second, I decided to get myself together, grab a
bite to eat and head on back to the office.
So, as I’m getting back to the office, I am greeted at the front door by
Denzel. His assignment was to make a trip home to his parents’ house and have a
conversation about some of the things he experienced as a child. He has never
talked about it to anyone but me, but it was tearing him apart on the inside. I
told him, for him to get through it he must confront it. Denzel goes into
detail about his trip home. He drove home for a weekend by himself to have this
uncomfortable conversation. During the second night, his mother made his
favorite meal. the three of them sat down to eat dinner and Denzel started to
talk about his feelings. As a child, his mother’s brother used to sexually
assault him. As he began to tell his parents what used to happen to him when
his uncle watched him, his mother began to cry. His father grew furious. As sad
and frustrating as it could be, there was nothing they could do but console him
and let him get it all out. His uncle had died the previous year in a car
accident, so he could not be confronted. As his parents apologize, they also
asked why he never told them. His response was simply that he did not want to
hurt the family. But what Denzel did not understand was it hurt his parents
that they were not aware of the situation, so they could not protect him. By
the time the trip ended, he felt much better about himself and about the
situation. And as time goes on, he can now begin to heal. He needed the most
important people in his life to know and it made him feel free. So now that is
behind him, he can start his family the way he wants to. That all my clients
for today. Time to go have a drink and prepare for tomorrow.
As I prepare dinner, Shawn drops Jazmine off home. We discussed her day,
dinner, and both went to get ready for bedtime. While Jazmine slept, I went to
my study room to get things together for tomorrow’s clients. It would be a
short day, on Fridays I always only book three appointments. First client is
Carmen. Carmen is young, classy, no children, but cannot stay off the streets.
You would never know she is a prostitute. Second client is Cheyenne. Cheyenne
is married, has two children but her husband has cheated on her and had an
outside baby. She is trying to keep it together, but she is falling apart over
it. My last client for today is Keisha. My my my, Keisha was power. She was the
owner of her Beauty salon, three children, and dating a woman. Keisha did not
have an issue. She just used her time to vent to me along with some other
things.
Good morning a sweet little voice awakes me. I must have overslept because
Jazmine came to wake me. I looked over at the alarm and obviously I kept
hitting snooze. Good thing I always set my alarm an hour early, so I was still
on time. After getting myself together and cooking breakfast, I dropped Jazmine
off to school and I went into the office. Carmen arrives and comes lay on the
couch. Listen, the women clients are different. They are more dramatic and long
winded. They get their monies worth when they come see me.
Carmen starts to vent about her job. She loves the money but is tired of the
game. She wants better but do not know how to end the fast life. As she relaxes,
she tells me about the assignment she did. She was supposed to go apply to
different jobs that interest her. She told me she went to put in about 5
applications. Those places were Macy’s, Charming Charlie’s, hospital
housekeeping, Dollar General, and Chick-fil-A. She goes on to explain, the
hospital hired her, and she began working 2 weeks ago. Within her two weeks
period, she has also started prostituting out of her apartment. The fast life
was just in her. The men did nothing for her, but they made her pockets big.
How is she supposed to just give it all up? At this point there is nothing else
I can help her with. She must truly want to stop; I cannot make her stop.
Next up is Cheyenne. The hurt she endures makes me mad. But I must keep it
together for my clients. Cheyenne comes in with her sassy self. Sit in the
chair and just goes on to tell me about the new baby and the mother. She was
really having a hard time dealing with this in the beginning. She has gotten a
lot better since our first initial meeting. Her assignment was to ask her
husband to have a picnic in the park with everyone. Cheyenne really wanted a
healthy relationship, especially if she was going to stay. So, her husband did
just that and it did not turn out great. However, it was cordial enough to get
through it. Hopefully, it gets better with time. Cheyenne has expressed to me
that she thinks he still has feelings for the baby’s mother. And as I told her,
that is something she must address with herself and him. She must make sure she
has fully forgiven him. Otherwise, her marriage will crumble.
Keisha still had about thirty minutes before she comes, so I decide to
freshen up the area. She was a different vibe. Keri was talking to me while
Keisha came in. After she left out, she ran back in to tell me Keisha was in
the waiting area. I looked into the mirror, adjusted myself and called her
back. When she walked in, she immediately unbuttoned her overcoat. She walked
over to me and gave me a kiss. This was my secret. Her sessions were always
hype. Her vibe was amazing, and she only vented about business issues. So, we
started hanging out and things go hot. We were not in a public relationship; we
were friends with major benefits. After a few sessions of her venting, after
hanging out we just decided to keep her on the books. Plus, Keri did not have
any idea of what was going on. Before anything could go any further, we sat
down and had a session about business, of course. Keisha just could not keep
her hands off me. She ended up guiding her fingers straight to my Cherry. What
was so sexy is that Keisha did not mind tasting me on her fingers. Such a huge
turn on. Before things moved further, we just left the office. Keri knew how to
shut down the office.
Back at my place, we both got in the shower giving each other passionate
kisses. From the bathroom to the bedroom, we were all over each other. I shoved
her on the bed and started liking, sucking, and kissing all over her body. The
things we would do to each other was amazing and feel fantastic. After both of
us reached our peak, we went to lunch. We went our separate ways as we would
meet up tonight for a party.
This was Jazmine’s weekend to stay with her dad. I decided I would hang out
with Keisha and enjoy myself. We decided to meet at 10:30 PM at the Boom-Boom
Night Club, Keisha knew the owner. The Night club consisted in parts. There was
the lounge, the strip club, and private rooms in the back. We decided to hang
in the strip club for a little while before making our way to the lounge. As we
were chilling in the lounge, Keisha was telling me that she wanted me to meet
the owner. We never talked personal business between each other. We were
comfortable and happy where we were with each other. There were no strings
attached whatsoever. I never questioned her, and she never questioned me. We
enjoyed each other’s company and that was that. So, in the middle of laughing,
they guys starts talking to Keisha, the owner. And to my surprise, it was
Denzel. I could never act as if I know someone when they are my actual client. So,
I chocked before getting myself together. Keisha introduced Denzel to me as her
boyfriend. I dropped my champagne glass.
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